Entry: Children's Right to Privacy? Tuesday, February 21, 2006



Do you know what your child does on the computer? You ... should.

I know there are many that might point out that it infringes upon your child's right to privacy. In fact, your child might argue that point. If so, hand them a diary and a pen because there is no privacy when you post pictures, information or anything about yourself in a public forum..online.

I cherish the right to privacy but I cherish my children more. I believe it is our duty as the adults online, as parents, as friends to take away a privilege that isn't being used with some common sense. I believe, our children are far more trusting on here than we'd like. But you can't see who is on the other computer. You can't peek through the moniter and know if that 14 year old your child is talking to is really.. 14.

MySpace.com has been on the news alot the past few days following the death of a girl that apparently met with one of her "friends." I don't know the whole story I do know.. a young girl is gone. But it isn't only MySpace.. it's anywhere we can post, build a network of friends that we never see, chat, email.. anywhere and we as parents are entrusted with the safety of our children. We have to be their guide through this because it's cool to do this and see that people are interested. Their judgement is not as wise an adults. Online there is no such thing as privacy.

Before I clarify this allow me to point out that I think these places are GOOD for us and for our children. They, like us, do find commarderie on here. Something that encourages them to read and write no matter how brief. Especially the blogs. I know, I like coming here and writing if others feel it important enough to read. If you all encourage me, I can't imagine how good it makes the kids feel. So, yes I do think it's good for our kids to do this. I just believe whole heartedly in monitering and keeping them safe.

   3 comments

Dexx
May 27, 2006   12:34 AM PDT
 
I got my self roped into an almost argument on this subject a week or two ago. The other pesons major points were ( to paraphrase) that anything like myspace should be shut down by the government and that I couldn't fully understand because I had no children. My main point was that a few years ago AOL was getting heat for the same thing and in a few more years it would be something else and as long as you do your best to kep the lines of communication open with your children and keep it clear to them what your expectations are, then you are being a good parent and the real problem is, sadly, that no matter how many good parents there are, there is still a shortage of good parenting in this day and age. I think I lost that argument ( in the other person's mind), but I stand by my opinion.
Reverberate
February 23, 2006   10:32 AM PST
 
We have been having this same thought with the youngest step-daughter. At 14 all she seems to think about is boys and sex. So we have been trying to monitor her but she accusses us of harrasement and being stalkers. This always makes my husband step back and rethink what we are doing.

Not me. If I can keep her innocent for one more day then I feel I have done my part as a parent. Kids tend to forget we were there once before!!
Shannon
February 21, 2006   09:20 PM PST
 
AMEN!!!

It takes a village......as they say and I agree with you 120%!

It's up to us as an online community to watch out for predators, however we've the wisdom with a few years (some of us more than a few) behind us, we can (again, that would be some of us that can't as well) see through the crap that someone is feeding us.

Yanno the adage, if it smells like it and looks like it, chances are that it's "it" and you just done stepped into it.

So I agree, keep your nose in your kids' business, let's hope that one day they won't have to hear the words..."I told you so"

Big hugs!

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