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Wednesday, April 30, 2014
A Song That Lifted My Spirits

It had started out to be a rough day.... again.


Every time my grand daughter comes home from her mother's house she suffers from a lack of respect. This time we've added to it that this family doesn't like her and she refuses to do what she needs to do unless we comply.


NOT... HAPPENING!!

This made for a very grumpy grandma!


But before the day ended I was reminded that there is always something good to the day, a friend that reminds you of important things... Thank you D.!


Posted at 4/30/2014 9:20:07 pm by WhisperedWords
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Tuesday, April 29, 2014
Venting.. till I feel better.

I periodically threaten to come back and start blogging again. Not that I have much to say but there are things I don't want to write on Facebook. I have often felt like a ship adrift in the sea over there but it's a nice place to keep in touch with family.

I have a friend that doesn't like republicans. I have a friend that doesn't like democrats and I believe everyone is ENTITLED to have their own opinion. What I don't happen to think people are entitled to is to be mean or rude in their judgments. I don't think anyone is entitled to try and MAKE people see your side if you are unwilling to give thought to what that person believes. Debate is a two way street .. not MY way.

For example, person A believes in a fair wage because wages have gone down. Person B questioned that idea since wages can't go below minimum wage and Person B pointed out that while wages have NOT risen the costs of goods have risen which makes it seem as if wages have dropped. The next thing I know, Person A and her boyfriend where posting THEIR beliefs and maybe I'm wrong but it felt like they believe they are right and damn anyone that doesn't agree. And that.. makes my heart very heavy. Especially since, when Person A and I were first friends she was far, far more compassionate of other people having differing opinions and was faster to agree to disagree than to just argue and belittle people.

No matter your difference of opinion you should still be able to have these discussions with an element of respect for the other person. If you don't you won't ever have a chance of persuading a person to change their beliefs even if they are wrong. But, you should be equally willing to change your own opinion if you might be wrong.

I had defended a statement someone made regarding there being communities where people choose not work. Instead they'd rather live on the government dole. I find that while this isn't true everywhere there are places that entire families live on welfare. It's what they grew up with, it's what they know. It's like a well intentioned plan needed a little more thought because the object of welfare should be to help the poor up into a job, and climbing the ladder to success. This of course excluded disabled and elderly. This was strictly meant for able bodied people that need help to work and start at the bottom to work their way to the top. I explained that I have seen this first hand. Able bodied people that choose to live homeless. Able bodied people choosing to live on welfare, believing the government owes them that. I used to believe in welfare until I've seen people turn down food offered to them because they wanted money to drink. I've SEEN this. Again, it doesn't mean that all homeless or people on welfare are this way but there is that element that choose it. And there are others that truly need it and then there are some that don't know where to begin to get on their own feet. You learn that growing up.

Her response? "Maybe where you live people are lazy but in California people aren't lazy." I took offense to that for two reasons. My FIRST encounter with this was in California!! The other is because she didn't want to see beyond her nose but would rather put down an entire group of people in a certain area. Yet I've lived in more than one state in this country. This is a country wide thing and she could dismiss it by calling people lazy. I suspect they aren't lazy. I suspect they need taught to fish rather than be given fish!! So, to me.. don't just dismiss and label people! TEACH them!

It's also about an innocent comment I made about so many people simply complaining about the situations life hands you. Instead of complain find a way around it, fix it.. do something positive. I included things I'd complained about.. one of which was the price of gas. So, either adapt because you want to drive, or find alternate means of transportation. Offense was taken to that and this person is fighting to get energy changed and she's making progress yet they don't want to sell their car and spend the money for an alternate fuel car. However, They will blast the fuel companies when prices rise. I've lived in Europe. Our gas prices are relatively low compared to some other places! I get that she's disabled and needs to be able to drive. So am I. But I'm not claiming progress on an issue that I'm not even willing to budge on! I want to drive therefore I'll pay the higher gas prices whether I like it or not. I can't afford a different car at this point so.. my idea is, figure out a clean, safe way to harvest fuel in our own country until alternate fuels are more cost effective and available but they are against that. So.. pay high gas prices and shut up! My neighbor was reading her posts cause basically she was arguing with herself since I truly wasn't even posting to her.

What got me started on that last post about complaining was something regarding genealogy and the people complaining at that particular moment. It wasn't about this woman or gas prices but she MADE it be about that then argued with herself.

So, I guess since I have vastly differing opinions I will stay out of Facebook other than to say hello to my family, keep track of genealogy information and play a few games when I'm bored. That's all it was ever meant to be.. it wasn't there to make a political statement for me. I can write about that here. Better yet.. I can vote for what I believe in. But if ever I'm simply being rude to someone because their opinion isn't in align with my own.. please tell me to shut up!

And I won't look up old friends!! That's what started this.. I found my best friend from high school and she just isn't the same person. She was quick to defend, always a smile and never calling people names. But, our lives took different paths. She almost died so maybe she has a right. But, I'm not comfortable telling her to change.. she's entitled to be who she is but I'm also entitled to a lot less rightous drivel from someone that appears to have forgotten that everyone has a right to an opinion or belief.


Posted at 4/29/2014 3:07:33 pm by WhisperedWords
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Wednesday, December 05, 2012
Quid Pro Quo

Link to new story is below. Councilwoman Watson stating why she thinks President Obama should bail out Detroit.

I am sad for our country. I'm sad for the people in our country that seem to have forgotten what President Kennedy once said; "Ask not what your country can do for you - ask what you can do for your country."

We need to go back to those standards.

I am not sure why it surprises me that a woman or man.. anyone would think like Detroit's Councilwoman Watson. Perhaps it's not that she thinks like that, maybe what surprises me is how profoundly sad this makes me to know that rather than vote for a president on merit people vote for what they think is in it for them..

http://www.mlive.com/news/detroit/index.ssf/2012/12/drudge_report_focuses_on_detro.html

Posted at 12/5/2012 12:13:58 pm by WhisperedWords
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Tuesday, October 23, 2012
Decisions and Debates

After watching all three debates as well as commercials, the bits of speeches I've seen and what I've read I have decided that there are three very important things I will consider while voting.

1. Economy and Jobs
2. Foreign Affairs
3. The example a leader sets for my children and grandchildren.

On the economy and jobs? Four years later and the jobs are still in the tank. I truly believe part of that is because there are so many people I've met that will simply opt to live on unemployment as long as they can get it. It needs to go back to being something that is a hand up not a hand out. I say that because I have seen help wanted signs. There are jobs out there but....I do agree that the pickings are slim.

As a business owner currently not inclined to hire anyone I can attest to this one thing. If I wanted to hire someone I wouldn't because I have no clue what the future holds. I used to budget two to three years in advance and each month I had enough money to pay all the bills. Now, I'm having to fight to get vendors to pay us so I can attempt to pay bills. We've clung to this business the very worst way possible.. debt. I have said that four more years of this and I'm closing our business. I don't want to because it's not a decision that affects just me.. but three other people and their families as well. So, from a business aspect I like the idea of a president that actually understands the issues of a business owner.

Healthcare got complicated. It was a hard thing for me to understand but I got it figured out and then came Obamacare. Now I get notices of fines if I don't have the appropriate paperwork, notices of intent to send letters of rebate to others on the insurance. If a boss pays the insurance then why would the employee need to know of a rebate? Oh, I suppose because the money is due to the employee who didn't pay the insurance? And for that matter don't even think our insurance premiums haven't gone up... they skyrocketed so I had to change plans to keep it affordable but our out of pocket expenses are higher.

If all that isn't bad enough, the cost of medical insurance is averaged out by the average age of those covered. We are a small group and two of us have pre-existing conditions and are in our 50's. That makes the cost to cover someone on our insurance much higher than it would be if he got his or her own insurance. I thought this a bit odd until I heard from a family member working in the medical field that their insurance is higher than she'd pay to get her own insurance. Something is simply wrong with that so the way I see it.. President Obama meant well but didn't really have this researched good enough to make sure it wasn't going to have a negative impact on the very people they desperately need to hire unemployed people. But I digressed.. due to age and pre-existing conditions our insurance is high so as I understand it.. and this hasn't been made clear but I understand that it will be considered a "cadillac plan" by virtue of how much it costs and we'll be taxed if we keep it. So.. we buy the insurance (as the business owner) and then in turn have to pay taxes for our part of the insurance because it's the insurance that allows me to keep my asthma doctor? And if we hire someone, we have to cover them which would be okay but I believe they should have the choice given the cost...but if I give a person a choice I could pay a fine?

See... point is.. who wants to hire when they are uncertain of what is going on?

Taxes might go up in January which makes no sense to me. I understand the top down theory... If the government doesn't charge up to 40 percent in taxes then we have money to hire someone. If my money is going to pay wages, pay vendors, pay for inventory as needed.. and taxes there's not enough to hire someone. So, no.. we aren't hiring because I can't figure out what's going to happen with taxes.

Here is my big thing though. When all is said and done I watch someone and the way they interact with other people. I want a leader that can take care of everything and not be arrogant, rude, dismissive and interruptive. I don't mind if you want to try and say a person's policies are wrong but I find it offensive when you try to say they don't hug their trash man, or that a person didn't care about someone getting cancer. Even if the person running for president didn't make the commercials themselves, if they don't denounce it their silence speaks volumes.

I want someone my children and grandchildren can look up to. That means the leader of our country has got to demonstrate good manners. When a candidate interrupts.. repeatedly and intentionally to the point where I'd smack him if he were my child, that turns me off. Completely. If you can't handle another candidate with respect then how are you treating the leaders of other countries? Your actions speak louder than words.

When I look at my children and grandchildren I want to know they will be as safe as possible. Right now I don't feel safe. If I don't feel safe then I don't feel as if my family is safe. I believe in a strong military. It is amazing how strength brings peace. My dad taught me that. He also taught me, as I protested the Viet Nam war he nipped that in the bud with one question.. "Would you rather our military fight the communists in our back yard or in another country?" I looked at my mom and I had to agree with my dad.. I'd want her safe so fighting a war in another country made sense. Then, twelve years ago another war came to our back yard. Not communists.. times do change but this time it was terrorists. That war was swiftly taken to another country and we were safe again.

Twelve years to the day, on Sept 11th, 2012 our embassy in Libya was attacked. It was a profound loss not just on a human loss but a wake up call on no matter how many drones the president sends out, no matter how many are killed by these drones the terrorist threat is growing and rather than do something about it our president and his minions blame it on a you tube video. Yet I heard of this attack.. looked at my flag that was half staff for Patriots Day and said.. "another terrorist attack." So why did this administration blame a movie? Blaming something other than the people that did the deed gives them a pass.

If my child lies to me I call him to the floor for the lie and hold him accountable. I believe, I will hold the President of the United States to the same and better standards than I will my children and I will, in the best way I can, call him to the floor for lying to me. For thinking we as a nation are stupid enough to believe some of the lies. I will hold him to the same standards of respect that I will hold my children and I will use my vote to make my voice heard.

And for the record... horses and bayonets are still used in the military Mr. President. If you want to be disrespectful (some simply call it snarky) and a smart ass.. know your facts.

Posted at 10/23/2012 11:26:52 am by WhisperedWords
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Sunday, October 14, 2012
Our Children Are Watching....

I would like the leaders of our country to remember a very important thing... Not only are they the leaders of what I think is the best country on earth but the leaders of our country are also examples for our children.

We try to teach our children respect, courtesy toward others, tolerance.. you get the idea. The best thing our leaders could do for the children of the country they lead is to behave as if their own children are watching them.

When the smirk, laugh, interrupt and in general treat another person with disrespect keep in mind our children are watching... and learning. When leaders lie or even simply allow a lie to be passed on the general population our children are listening.. and learning.

So please.. remember that our children are watching and conduct yourselves with a bit of decorum!

Thank you!

Posted at 10/14/2012 10:31:07 pm by WhisperedWords
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Wednesday, October 10, 2012
Hearing today

It is so very sad to hear of the the actual events that took place in Libya on Sept. 11th, 2012. I hope those that passed away find peace and I hope our nation stands up and demands that those serving this country be respected enough to be given the security they needed. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that a country with a newly forming government isn't the safest most serene place in town.

Forget Hope and Change..

http://jacksonville.com/news/crime/2012-10-10/story/new-details-libya-attack-no-protests-taking-place-benghazi-consulate

Posted at 10/10/2012 1:56:22 pm by WhisperedWords
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Hearing today

It is so very sad to hear of the the actual events that took place in Libya on Sept. 11th, 2012. I hope those that passed away find peace and I hope our nation stands up and demands that those serving this country be respected enough to be given the security they needed. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that a country with a newly forming government isn't the safest most serene place in town.

Forget Hope and Change..

http://jacksonville.com/news/crime/2012-10-10/story/new-details-libya-attack-no-protests-taking-place-benghazi-consulate

Posted at 10/10/2012 1:39:22 pm by WhisperedWords
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Saturday, October 06, 2012
Grow up..

I read a couple of the comments posted here and I'm reminded why I often stay away. The spam is horrendous!

On to my post..

When a person chooses to have a child; better put.. lie about being on birth control (men, take heed.. it still happens) then one should choose to give up a life of carefree partying, drinking, and jail. It is time to grow up and set an example for the child because no matter what.. what mom says trumps what anyone else says. Sadly, its those taking care of the child, and even more.. your child that is paying the price for your indiscretions. In my humble opinion, a mother that chooses to live like that would garner more respect from me if she simply backed away and let the child try to have a good life... without your negative influence. At least until you grew up.


Posted at 10/6/2012 8:02:07 pm by WhisperedWords
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Sunday, September 09, 2012
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Finally we've had a respite from the humidity. The weather has cooled down considerably after yesterday's storm. I can go outside and breath at the same time!

I watched both of the conventions. What I could stay awake for at least. Seems like the Democratic one left me with the most to be concerned about. They both did but none so much as needing a 2/3's vote to put "God" back into the democratic platform for the convention. I'm not entirely sure what has me more baffled..That it needed voted on to start with or that people voted no. Or.. if the idea that there sure did not seem to be a 2/3rd's majority vote but it got changed anyway. That is not .. democracy.

I also find it odd that of the two conventions the one sentence that struck a cord with me? "We own this country." This statement coming from Clint Eastwood as he spoke to an empty chair. No matter your political affiliation, beliefs or tenets.. he's right. We own this country. To that end it's our duty to this country to take in all the facts, determine who is best..
And vote!


Posted at 9/9/2012 2:52:18 pm by WhisperedWords
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Tuesday, August 28, 2012
....

There was a question posted on Facebook asking if people are watching the Republican Convention. I am. I'd like to make an informed decision. Thus far the comments on Facebook were poking fun at someone's last name. Others felt that watching Republicans making fools of themselves would be entertaining. For some reason, the one that stuck out was the person that felt a need to state she doesn't pay attention to politics so she doesn't care.

That's the person I feel the sorriest for. There are countries where you don't have a voice, you don't have a vote. The person that has the right to have a say and chooses not to use that voice only stifles themselves and suffers for their silence.

So please, Democrat or Republican alike, please CARE enough to know what is going on. To make an informed decision and use your voice and come November.. Vote.
Peace out..!

Posted at 8/28/2012 8:41:24 pm by WhisperedWords
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