As of the last word, unless my son can get someone as a witness to admit to the lack of care the baby has had, the best he can hope for at this juncture is visitation rights. The mother's own mother goes back and forth between wanting my son to have the baby and being understandably leery because she's afraid he'd cut her out of the baby's life as much as she is cut out of ours. However, my son believes it's important that his daughter know her grandparents. The mother will get mad at her mother and not let her see her grandaughter for months at a time. He's hoping if he offers her guarranteed days for visitation, which he fully intended to do anyway, then maybe the mother will stand by his side. Why not just do what's right for the baby?

The other possibility is the babysitter. Will she willingly go and testify as to how long and how often the baby was left in her care for weeks at a time. My daughter knew the babysitter in school so she's thinking maybe she can get somewhere positive with her. Hoping. The mother of my grandaughter used to be my daughter's friend when they were in school... my guess is my daughter CAN maybe find out from people willing to testify as to the care the child receives... particularly the instances the mother gets drunk and drives with the baby in the car. Or.. drug use which might incur drug testing. They know of one instance but the person serving drinks is the mother's cousin so getting her to testify is going to be hard if they even can. The other times are rumor from one person to another and they don't know who would be an acceptable witness to those events. Drunk driving with the baby in the car would be enough to get my grandaughter safely back in my son's care. Hopefully a cop pulls her over before something worse happens.

So, that's where he stands now. I hate this. It would be so much more comforting if we knew the mother actually cared for her beautiful little girl..